All of us receive criticism. I bet that every one of us can remember the last time we got negative feedback, or were told something about ourselves that we did not like. Or even, discovered that someone thought negatively about us, with no apparent grounds for why they felt that way. Either way, negative feedback is never a pain-free experience.
If you are like me, you pay attention to what people say.
Personally I believe that it is important to understand how people perceive you. Not because their perception is correct, but understanding their viewpoint, goes a long way towards building better relationships. Building relationships is what we as believers are all about: we are to train ourselves in good relationships so that we can reach the world. Consequently, I listen for people’s opinions since all feedback has some truth in it, even if it is just 5%. Listening to what people around me say is an important process of self-evaluation.
All feedback needs to be evaluated, and this is best done in the presence of the Lord.
The Lord knows who we are, and where we are in our journey and so it is important to ask Him to help us sift for truth that is relevant to us. One of the things we do in His presence, is evaluate the “mouthpiece” from which the feedback came. I believe that God uses people to point out our weaknesses, but it should be in the context of a healthy relationship or be a continuing part of a conversation that you and the Lord have been having, or continue to have. God will use people who speak into your life in relationship.
Recently though, I made a different mistake. I received negative feedback from someone, which was similar to feedback I had received three months before. It hurt just as much the second time round, but this time the Lord and I had already talked it through and there was nothing new to this repeated criticism.