Today I am not a happy Mommy! I am feeling a bit taken for granted in my household, the servant to husband and kids. I feel unappreciated, overlooked and my family really does not realise all I do for them. Granted, it is a house of teenagers, but I don’t buy into self-pity so…
I decided to look up what the bible has to say to slaves!
Starting at Col 3:23 Paul encourages slaves to obey their masters “doing it with a sincere heart (a desire to serve) and reverence for the Lord.”
Ouch! Then verse 24 adds: doing all (working hard at it) “as though working for the Lord, not for men” (people, my children, my husband.)
To conclude in verse 25: “since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Jesus Christ you are serving.”
What a scriptural hiding! I am not technically a servant to my family, but I choose to serve them because I love them.
But I have not been feeling very “serving” towards them, instead I have been feeling the inconvenience of the energy I have spent; objected to the time demanded; the personal sacrifices I have made to meet their needs. I have paid the price of keeping going when I would rather just sit down; doing what I don’t feel like doing; giving attention to them when I would want time for myself; surrendering my sleep to meet another’s agenda.
All this, without a single word of sincere appreciation or a reciprocal act of serving my needs. Am I the only one that has feelings like this, Mothers?
The above verses put perspective on WHO I am actually serving, ultimately I am doing it because my real Master has asked me to, not my family. Furthermore, He reminds me, that He sees.
- He sees my heart: “The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Sam 16:7 1Chron 28:9
- He sees what I do in secret service without people close to me knowing what I do: “…so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”
- He rewards: “…will know that I am he who searches hearts and minds, and I will repay each of you according to your deeds.” Rev 2:23
I need to change my attitude to serving my family and rather than looking for appreciation from them, look to the Lord whom I am serving.
Then on those days that it becomes a bit harder to serve, Peter gives the last bit of advice:
“If anyone serves, she should do it with the strength God provides.” 1 Peter 4:11