Mind the Attitude

They said: “But they are Christians; they are not supposed to behave like that!”  Most of the time, I agree with them.  Believers are not always a good example.  More often, they are just not considering their attitudes before younger believers and had no intention of causing hurt.

1 Cor 10:23-24

“Everything is permissible” – but not everything is beneficial.

“Everything is permissible” – but not everything is constructive.

Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others.

Paul gives good advice here: we should try to be gracious and sensitiveWe may not be doing anything wrong, but our attitudes are not always beneficial or constructive to younger believers.

Paul implores us “whatever you do, do it all to the glory of God.” And then warns in verse 32 “Do not cause anyone to stumble.”  God’s love is to be the determining factor in how we treat others, “seeking the good of many.”  Living a life that says : “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.”

mind the attitudeBut there are certain attitudes which we embrace that do more damage to our example than promote the good of many.  Here are my top ten attitudes that could do with a makeover:

  1. I’m looking out for Number One, or ME First: where we are just insensitive and doing whatever we like and the “people must just deal with it.”
  2. Then there is the oversensitive one, who won’t get involved because “You hurt me”
  3. Closely followed by the “I don’t want to ruffle any feathers.” Since I would hate it if you were disappointed in me or displeased in any way.  So to be safe, I won’t get involved.
  4. Then there is the YES person, who will go along with everybody, do whatever is necessary, the real motive being to gain the approval and love of people, rather than God.
  5. Don’t forget the demanding one – “My way or no way!”  My idea is best, my opinion stays, my plans are to be followed.
  6. Self service one – “If I do this for you, will you do this for me.”
  7. The Princess – “Why are you not helping me achieve my goals?”
  8. Reverse Ubuntu – “You are here for my benefit” as opposed to “my good is determined by the common good.”
  9. The “do what I can” Attitude – I did what I could, so be happy with that, I wash my hands.
  10. The “Just leave me” Attitude – Just leave me alone, I don’t want to get involved, don’t want to see, or hear, or understand, it would disturb my comfortable life.

We don’t think these attitudes cause any harm, but they are a poor example and cause younger believers to stumble.  According to Paul, the right attitude is:

The Serving attitude: Seeking the Good of Others, “I will do what will be good for you.  Follow my example.”

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By | 2017-06-30T15:27:00+00:00 February 19th, 2014|

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Michelle du Toit lives in Johannesburg, South Africa. She is married to Adrian, with two children. She is passionate about God and influencing people. She shares her own personal treasures from the bible for encouragement to others.


  1. Sophia Van Rooyen February 19, 2014 at 10:52 am - Reply

    Michelle, thank you for the time you take to write that which is upon your heart. You truly inspire me, i guess because your inspiration is also from the Holy Spirit. Thank you, you are a true blessing!

    Sophia Van Rooyen Dhlamini

    • Michelle February 19, 2014 at 2:51 pm - Reply

      Thank you for your encouragement Sophia. It is great to hear from you again.

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